Instead of Fixing Sex Education Laws, Missouri Legislature Settles for Warning Students About Sexting

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So...under Missouri sex-ed policies, would this be considered third base?
It was April 2014, and Missouri representative Clem Smith was spitting mad. A bill he'd proposed to reform the state's abstinence-based sex education laws had been gutted during a committee hearing.

Along with other reforms, Smith had sought to amend the law that forces sex-ed teachers to mention the "emotional trauma associated with adolescent sexual activity" to their students. Instead, conservative lawmakers "put a Ginsu knife to it and chopped up 90 percent of my bill," Smith told Riverfront Times at the time. All that was left after the gutting were provisions adding information about sexting and online predators to the state's sex education laws.

For Smith, his "new" bill was a watered-down sham, a defeat posing as compromise.

Yet more than a year later, the very same watered-down bill is being heralded as a major bipartisan victory. Signed into law yesterday by Governor Jay Nixon, the Democrat-sponsored bill will ensure that Missouri's schoolchildren will finally learn about the dangers of sexting and internet predators.

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How the Post-Dispatch Shamed a Possible Rape Victim -- and Embarrassed Itself

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A night of heavy drinking turned into a nightmare for a Jefferson City lobbyist -- thanks in part to the Post-Dispatch's A-1 report Friday.

Editor's note: We updated this story at 5 p.m. on June 22. Scroll to the bottom for the latest.

The woman called Jefferson City police at 8 a.m. on April 9 to say that she was worried she'd been sexually assaulted the night before. She couldn't remember where she'd been most of the evening -- and not only did her wrist hurt, but her clothes were both muddy and bloody. Police took her to the hospital and compiled evidence for a rape kit.

Two months later, on June 19, the St. Louis Post-Dispatch ran her photo on its front page. The accompanying story listed all the alcohol she'd consumed the night before -- with details including the size of various bar tabs and the specific drinks (wine, vodka Red Bull, Jagerbombs) she'd paid for. It also named the man she'd previously been in a sexual relationship with, even though he was not suspected of any wrongdoing and wasn't even present for the night's festivities.

It published her name and her job (a lobbyist at the time she filed the police report, she's now in public relations) and said she'd declined to be interviewed.

And then, in classic daily newspaper fashion, it attempted to make the story about something bigger, something important.

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Missouri House Speaker John Diehl Resigns After Sexting Scandal

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Missouri News Horizon
Speaker John Diehl in 2010.

One day after the Kansas City Star published pages of sexual texts between Republican House Speaker John Diehl and a college intern, Diehl has resigned.

This is an about-face from the St. Louis-area representative's attitude last night, when he hid out in his office for nine hours and finally emerged only to deny that he had sex with the intern. At the time, he apologized again, but said he had the support of the caucus despite the scandal.

In a new statement released today, Diehl formally acknowledges that he sent the texts and says he is stepping down.

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Speaker John Diehl Hides in His Office for Nine Hours, Then Denies He Had Sex With Intern

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Courtesy Jason Rosenbaum, St. Louis Public Radio
The door.

Update: On Thursday, May 14, Diehl resigned. Read his statement here.

Reporters stood by for hours outside Republican House Speaker John Diehl's office yesterday, waiting for the embattled St. Louis-area lawmaker to emerge and answer questions unscripted about his reported affair with a college intern. Diehl responded with a statement yesterday afternoon to a Kansas City Star article revealing the sexts the two exchanged.

"I take full responsibility for my actions and am truly sorry to those I let down. I apologize for the poor judgment I displayed that put me and those closest to me in this situation," he said in the statement.

That wasn't good enough for some capitol reporters, who camped outside the speaker's door for nine hours, hoping for more. Finally, around 11 p.m., Diehl emerged.

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Missouri House Speaker John Diehl Was Sexting an Intern, Kansas City Star Reports [UPDATE]

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Oh noz.

Update: Diehl issued a statement late Wednesday afternoon admitting to the affair, but not offering to step down. Here's the full statement:

"I take full responsibility for my actions and am truly sorry to those I let down. I apologize for the poor judgment I displayed that put me and those closest to me in this situation. I also regret that the woman has been dragged into this situation. The buck stops here. I ask for forgiveness. I will begin immediately working to restore the trust of those closest to me, and getting back to the important work that is required in the final days of session."

Original post follows....

The Kansas City Star ran an exclusive this morning, reporting that Republican House Speaker John Diehl exchanged some sexy texts with a female intern. The woman was a freshman at Missouri Southern State University living in Jefferson City as a part of the school's Missouri Capitol internship program.

Which has since been cancelled! And no one will say why, according to the paper.

Oh, brother.

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Savage Love Is Returning to Riverfront Times This Week

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Tell anyone in St. Louis that you work at the Riverfront Times, and they'll generally have one of two responses.

One, they want to know what it's like working with Ray Hartmann.

Or, two, they want to tell you that the RFT sucks for no longer carrying Savage Love.

Sometimes they'll even give you both replies. That's when you know you've got a live wire.

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"Zoo" Is The Most Popular Word in Online Dating Profiles in Missouri, But Why?

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Steve Truesdell
Hippo Harbor is pretty romantic.
At first glance, Mashable's map of the most used words on dating profiles, organized by state, makes a lot of sense.

Texans and Oklahomans are talking about oil to potential dates, of course. Floridians mention Disney more than anything else, and Indianans overwhelmingly list NASCAR in their online dating profiles. For three of Missouri's neighbors -- Iowa, Nebraska and Kansas -- the most popular word is "farm." No surprises there.

But the most popular word used in Missouri is a bit of a stumper. Why, Missourians, are we putting the word "zoo" in our online dating profiles?

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My Invisible Boyfriend Answers Five Questions About True Love

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Kelly Glueck
Alex, the fake boyfriend I created using My Invisible Boyfriend.
My fake boyfriend doesn't know much about true love.

I suppose I shouldn't be so hard on him. He doesn't actually exist. There is no Alex Arobin, 29, teaching physical education and texting me sweet nothings from New Orleans. Those sweet nothings actually come from a St. Louis-based company called Invisible Boyfriend (or Invisible Girlfriend, depending on your gender preference).

Invisible Boyfriend started in November 2013 at St. Louis Startup Weekend. Matt Homann, who says he'd been kicking the idea around in his head for three years, pitched a service that creates believable fake love for clients who need to convince family, friends or coworkers that they're partnered up.

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14 Pickup Lines That Only St. Louisans Can Love

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"Forget the trams at the Gateway Arch. I'll show you how to ride something monumental."
Want to find a valentine of your very own before Valentine's Day this weekend? Let Daily RFT be your digital wingman.

The hardest part of meeting a nice guy or gal is breaking the ice without coming across like a total creeper or psycho hose beast. That's why we've come up with a list of cheesy pickup lines that are so St. Louis that they're dripping with provel.

So good luck, singles of St. Louis. We hope these STL-themed pickup lines will open the gateway to your future lover's heart...and bedroom.

See also: St. Louis Entrepreneur Gets You High on Love with Weed-Friendly Dating Site, My420Mate

Here are our favorite St. Louis pickup lines:

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Health Dept: St. Louis' No. 1 Rank for Chlamydia Is "Meaningless," Because Statistics

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Com_salud via flickr
"Are you sure that's where you should be checking me for chlamydia, doc?"
St. Louis has climbed its way back on top in an annual federal ranking of cities with the highest rates of chlamydia, but the St. Louis Health Department says the ranking is "meaningless."

Because St. Louis and Baltimore are the only two cities in the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention study that aren't located within a county, comparing those cities with less-dense urban areas is "comparing apples to oranges," the department says in a release.

New numbers from the CDC show St. Louis has the highest rate of chlamydia and the second highest rate of gonorrhea. Last year, St. Louis ranked second for both sexually transmitted infections.

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