Is It Possible to Stay Sober on Tour?

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Are you a musician? Is your group having issues? Ask Fan Landers! Critic Jessica Hopper has played in and managed bands, toured internationally, booked shows, produced records, worked as a publicist and is the author of The Girls' Guide to Rocking, a how-to for teen ladies. She is here to help you stop doing it wrong. Send your problems to her -- confidentiality is assured, unless you want to use your drama as a ticket to Internet microfame.

Dear Fan,

I'm the only sober member in my band, coming up on nine years in recovery. I'm active in AA. It's a big part of my life. I love and need the consistency of meetings, regular prayer and meditation. You know, all the good stuff that makes it work. My bandmates are not sober. The festival scene which we were on all this summer is also not a great place to hang for a sober person. I find myself trapped and unable to get in a good routine with the stuff that keeps me sane and sober. I also look around and think "they are having much more fun than me. If only I were drinking." Now, of course, I don't listen to that voice for more than a second, but it can get lonely in that space. I try and do things like just be a good bandmate. Load all the gear while they are going nuts after gigs. Be of service and all of that. I also try and hit as many meetings as I can on tour. It still gets hard and I wonder how other musicians who are sober do it happily and successfully?

--A Sober Guy

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The 10 Best Concerts in St. Louis This Weekend: September 19 to 21

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Shabazz Palaces - Friday, September 19 @ the Firebird.
Check out new releases from local groups Hands and Feet and MusicEmbryo this weekend as well as a reunion from Otto's Revenge. For more excuses to get out of the house, check out great touring acts in addition to a variety of fests: FarFetched's Brave New World festival, the Old Webster Jazz and Blues Festival, the South Grand Fall Fest and Wild Fest. Details on these events and more await right after the jump.

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Mineral's Van Broken Into Outside of Flamingo Bowl, Thousands Stolen

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In what is becoming an alarming trend in St. Louis, Texas emo band Mineral, currently in the midst of an otherwise successful reunion tour, had its van broken into during the group's time in St. Louis on September 16. Following a show at the Firebird that went without incident, the members of the band traveled to the Flamingo Bowl to celebrate the birthday of vocalist Chris Simpson. When they left the bowling alley they found that their van had been broken into and most of their valuables had been stolen.

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St. Louis Rapper Tef Poe Pens a Piece on Ferguson for Time Magazine

Categories: The Poe Report

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The tireless Tef Poe, who just last week was given a "Salute to Excellence" award by the National Association of Black Journalists, has now written an article for Time Magazine about his experience on the streets of Ferguson in the wake of the shooting of unarmed teen Mike Brown by a police officer.

The piece, published this week on Time's website, decries racial profiling in St. Louis county as well as the police response to the unrest in Ferguson specifically. An excerpt:

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Mike Birbiglia Tempts Michael Ian Black with St. Louis Fame, Pi Pizza

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Will Mike Birbiglia and Michael Ian Black know the love of Pi Pizza?

Really good pizza is a universal love. We should know: our dining critic just gushed over A Pizza Story and one of our news reporters eats so much deep dish that he's filled with pepperoni grease instead of blood.

In fact, pizza is so delicious that comedian Mike Birbiglia tried using it to lure fellow funny dude Michael Ian Black to St. Louis. Birbiglia brings his "Thank God for Jokes" tour to the Pageant on Friday, September 19, and the comedian thought maybe Black might enjoy some local pie.

But naturally, the conversation went to hilarious hell. Here's what happened in this saucy tale of bro-love:

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Liquor License Protest Against the Ready Room Fails, Agreement Pending Between Neighbors

Categories: Live and Local

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The Ready Room in the Grove.
In July RFT Music took an in-depth look at noise complaints arising from Forest Park Southeast residents regarding neighboring music venues the Ready Room (4195 Manchester Avenue) and the Demo (4191 Manchester Avenue) in the Grove. In late August the Demo's liquor license protest came to an end after a peaceful resolution between club managers and area resident Rachel Siegert. A written compromise, mediated by city excise commisioner Bob Kraiberg, outlines specific soundproofing goals and event limitations while allowing the Demo to re-open and carry on business as usual.

The Ready Room managers and its residential neighbors, on the other hand, have yet to reach a concrete agreement. After a hearing with Kraiberg on September 4, the official liquor license protest filed by residents Brad Fratello and Doug Moore failed due to a lack of signatures.

See also: The Demo's Reopening Over Labor Day Weekend

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Six Reasons You Need To Flyer Your Shows

Categories: Nitpick Six

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So easy, even a monkey can do it.
Social media takes the heat for a lot of things. Some people insist that it's responsible for diluting activism and killing personal interaction. Others may recall the recent viral Craigslist post about the restaurant that blamed their slowing service on social media and smartphones, while some scientists have even drawn a connection between Facebook use and depression.

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Mike Birbiglia Preaches the Gospel of Humor On His Ambitious "Thank God for Jokes" Tour

Categories: Comedy

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Mike Birbiglia
Humor can be expressed in many ways, be it a one-liner, a story, a picture or simply a physical action. It is a unique art form, dependent as much on the performer as it is on the audience. It can exist as an individual entity or take small roles in different forms. A funny character can pop up in a dramatic film, just as a wisecrack can stand alone as a single quip between two individuals.

It doesn't take a comedian to tell a joke, but it does take one to properly deliver that joke. And what separates the comedians from the joke-tellers is the knowledge of how to include their audience as opposed to isolating them.

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Premiere: Finn's Motel Releases New Music Video Made by Blip Blap

Categories: Fiesta!

Video still from Finn's Motel's "Recurring Dream with Halo's Glow"

RFT Music is proud to premiere the new music video for Finn's Motel's "Recurring Dream with Halo's Glow," a bright, warm track off of the bands upcoming album Into the Realm of Jupiter Rex.

With nearly every scene soaked in steep, slanting sun, the video perfectly captures the fading end of summer. The use of light and the clarity of the scenes are representative of the kind of magnetic quality that we've come to expect from local production company Blip Blap Video.

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Cali Handshakes and Insane South Africans at the Die Antwoord Show: Photos

Categories: Snapshots

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South African rap-rave group Die Antwoord made a stop at the Pageant last night, bringing Zef style and generalized shock-factor insanity to the Delmar loop. Fans came out in droves as well, ready to have a good time and many even willing to indulge our photographer in what is known as the "Cali Handshake," which basically involves both parties executing the "hang loose" surfer signal with their hands while bumping knuckles.

Hey, its a Die Antwoord show. We can get weird if we want.

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