Six Tips for Dating a Musician: Female Edition

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5. Be a Modest Muse

Accept that she may write songs about your personal lives. Then, she will sing those songs to masses of people that you know and don't know. She will describe your deepest romantic moments and most insane freak-outs to strangers. Possibly worse than this, is that she will tell them to your closest friends also. They may learn your favorite sex position, your secret nicknames, or that you like to pee with the bathroom door open.

Get used to it, but don't get a big head about it either. No one wants to continually be reminded that "This song is about me!" They probably already figured that out. (If you need to get out the excitement that you are a musical muse, go listen to the Naked and Famous' "Girls Like You" in your headphones while you dance around your bedroom in your underwear, double checking how hot your bod is in the mirror.)

Accept that she writes song about other people. You are probably not the first boy she fell in love with. They have songs too, and she's not going to stop playing them. Plus, not every song out there is about romance and heartbreak. Inspiration finds her in the strangest places. Her father, her love for booze and weed, her best friend, all the times she got mugged: All these and more will probably enter the picture at some point. I once witnessed a city squirrel inspire lyrics: "Ghetto squirrel, where do you hide your nuts?"

6. Music Talk 24/7

She's a musician. She loves music. She will want to talk about music at every chance she gets. Not just her music, but her friends' music and the music that she loves and strives to emulate. If you're not into this music, that's okay, but don't sit around bashing the things she thinks are great. If you can't find common ground when it comes to music, you are dating within the wrong genre. You can have different tastes, but you are going to need to be open and understanding to her likes and dislikes, as she will need to do the same. Sometimes you won't want to hear about the same album that changed her life over and over again -- but you are going to. Get used to it, and try to love that album also.

In short, if you're not into talking about music, going to shows, or hearing songs about yourself...you need to stop dating a musician.

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12 comments
rftmusic
rftmusic

@LAWeeklyMusic Thanks for the RT!

normandiewilson
normandiewilson

@nicklucchesi says you're in Brooklyn, how did you get involved with this? O_o

Malice Cooper
Malice Cooper

borrrring. this is so 24 hours ago. new stuff please.

jubaleegirl
jubaleegirl

Rule #1 for dating a musician: Don't date Bob Reuter. Rule #2: don't date anyone associated with him. Biggest assholes in St. Louis.

Allison Babka
Allison Babka

I love when people's stupidity = repurposed content and more pageviews!

Allison Babka
Allison Babka

That you needed to even do this is beyond ridiculous. Disclaimers, POV, they were there. Reading is fundamental, folks. (Nice job, Dan)

jamieleefinch
jamieleefinch

@rftmusic I finally read her response. Homegirl is PISSED. But I don't think it's at you guys. You simply awakened the beast. #daddyissues

jamieleefinch
jamieleefinch

@rftmusic I see what you did there. Hahahaha.

rftmusic
rftmusic

@jamieleefinch Heh, thank you kindly, madam.

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