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I WANT TO BUY A CAR FOR A GIRL I JUST MET
Dear Willie D:
I want to buy a car for a girl I recently met through a mutual friend. She is a really nice person who happens to be going through a rough patch financially. I know it's a big step, but I really like her and she needs transportation to travel back and forth to work. At the moment I drop her off to work and pick her up. I don't mind doing it, but if she had her own car it would free up 15-20 hours a week of my time.
The car I'm thinking about buying her isn't new, but it still costs about $25,000. Do you think that's too much for a girl I just met two weeks ago?
This has to be a joke, right? Can't nobody be that damn stupid! Okay [calming down]. Let's look at your situation by the numbers. The amount of money you intend on spending on a gift for anyone, including yourself, should be determined by the amount of money you're sitting on. If you're thinking about gifting $25K and you have $1 million in the bank, I don't see a major problem. But if you only have $30K and you're thinking about blowing $25K I wouldn't advise it.
In any event, 25 racks is a lot of money to spend on someone you've only known for two weeks just because she's nice. Her cookies must be finger-licking good!
CAN'T STOP GOSSIPING
Dear Willie D:
I think I may have just ruined a great friendship with someone I've known since sixth grade. She confided in me about renting the kitchen appliances and furniture in her living room. As I was talking to a mutual friend I divulged the information and it got back to her. Now she won't return my phone calls. It wouldn't be so bad if I would have only mentioned the fact that she rented the furniture, but I also said she was living above her means.
I don't know why I threw her under the bus like that. It's not like I was mad at her or anything. I have always had a problem talking other people's business. I know it's not right but I do it anyway. How can I avoid repeating this behavior in the future?
Gossiping is a sign of insecurity. Frequently when people are unhappy with themselves, they put others down to make themselves feel better. If you want to avoid gossiping, start treating people how you want to be treated. If you don't like it when someone says nasty things about you behind your back, don't do it to them. You can avoid repeating your behavior by simply not saying anything behind someone's back you wouldn't say to his or her face.
It's a shame that a great friendship is in peril, but your friend should've seen it coming because if someone will gossip to you they'll gossip about you. Next time think before you speak. Words have consequences.
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