Ask Andrew W.K.: Should I Experiment With the Same Sex?
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Dear Andrew W.K., I am twenty years old and I have no idea what I want to do with my life. I'm being pressured about joining the military or taking up a trade in construction.The problem here is, neither interest me, and I'm not cut out for the military. My problem is that I know what I don't want to do, instead of what I do want to do. I'm not sure if you've lived this, but what advice would you offer someone in my shoes?
Confusion is natural. We don't need to always understand our life or know what we want to do. But in this case, being certain that you don't want to go to the military or do construction is at least a start. Some people don't even know what they don't want!
I have a feeling that somewhere, deep inside, you probably do have interests, or had some dreams at some point. A lot of times, people get taught they can't do what they really want in life. They can only do what they should do. That can be true sometimes, but it's absolutely false as an overall rule.
The entire point of life is to do what you were born to. And how do you figure out what you were born to do? By listening very closely to the feelings deep inside yourself. Ask yourself this: If you could be doing anything ten years from now, what would it be? If money was no object, what would your ideal day-to-day existence consist of? What would make you excited to get up in the morning, even on only a couple hours of sleep?
Even if it's not what seems like a "job," it's a starting point. It's a place where you can begin to familiarize yourself with what you really love about life. Someone might say, "I just want to eat chocolate all day." There's a profession for that. Someone might say, "I just want to have sex all day." There's a profession for that too.
Finding out what you love isn't hard. The hard part is believing it's possible for you to do it every day. And it is possible! For now, don't be too hard on yourself about your confusion and feeling of no direction. This was all meant to happen too, because it's brought you to this turning point. Now you get to have fun and dream about anything you want your life to be.
Pay very close attention to the ideas that make your heart beat faster, your stomach get butterflies and your spine get chills. That's your soul telling you what you're meant for. It can be extremely surprising to realize your destiny, but it's the greatest part about being a human being. I never would've dreamed I was born to be a professional partier, but I followed my instincts and against all odds, it happened. If I can do this for a living, than certainly you can do what you want.
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