Musical Match-Making: Six St. Louis Musician Couples Share Their Experiences
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It's Valentine week, and l'amour is in the air. No matter if we love or loathe this Hallmark holiday of chocolates, teddy bears and extra-special sex, we all can agree that local music makes our heart sing. But for some St. Louis couples, there's no line between the romance and music. By writing, recording and performing together, these couples bring an additional level of trust and communication to the stage.
For this week's print edition, we spoke with six St. Louis-based couples about the ups and downs of sharing band life, but our interviewees had plenty more to say than could fit into the article. So below, learn even more about how love, life and lyrics come together for the couples in CaveofswordS, Cree Rider Family Band, Letter to Memphis, Beth Bombara, Ragged Blade Band and Scarlet Tanager.
Courtesy of CaveofswordS Sunyatta and Kevin McDermott of Caveofswords
Couple: Sunyatta and Kevin McDermott
Romance cred: Married for nearly four years
Sunyatta's role in the band: Bass, vocals, bells (studio) and bass, keys, guitar, vocals (live)
Kevin's role in the band: Beats, keys, bass, guitar, everything (studio) and guitar, keys (live)
Best part about working together
Sunyatta: The best part about working with Kevin is that he's a genius. He is amazingly talented and has a wonderful ear. He comes from a really different music background from me, but in the last five or so years, our tastes merged, so we bring different skills and talents to the band. He is patient and kind. Most of all, it is really fun and inspiring to have shared goals with your partner.
Kevin: Being in a band with my best friend who is ridiculously talented and also happens to be smoking hot. Sunyatta has made the dream of playing and performing my own music happen and continually surprises me by getting better all the time.
Worst part about working together
Sunyatta: The worst part is...there is no bad part. He is a joy. And so is being in a band with him.
Kevin: We don't actually know how to talk about music and can occasionally get frustrated with each other over stupid things.
A funny thing about performing together is...
Sunyatta: The same story everyone in any band has -- our first show, and he smacks me really hard across the face with the headstock of his guitar. Oops!
Kevin: On our first "gig" as a band, I was so nervous I accidentally smoked Sunyatta in the head with the headstock of my guitar, and she didn't divorce me or even really get mad! We have also kissed onstage and in the studio on multiple occasions and shocked the hell out of each other because we were both holding our guitars that were plugged into different amps.
Advice to other lovebirds starting a band together
Kevin: Do it! If you love music and the person you're writing/playing with, it is the greatest feeling in the world when it all goes right. Just don't let the bad nights or setbacks musically get confused with your romantic relationship. Both kinds of relationships take work and upkeep to stay strong, and understanding that simple fact will help them both immensely.
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