How Not to Interact With Female Musicians

Don't ask "Do you write your own songs?"
No, her boyfriend wrote them. See: Stephanie Tanner's catchphrase. Don't say, "You surprised me. You're actually good!" I think this is meant to be a compliment, but it isn't a good one. You seem to be saying, "At first I saw your female anatomy and thought, 'Someone with a vagina surely could not create music that I would like or relate to.' But, hey, you are a cut above the rest of your sex! Thank you for appealing to me!" Get out of here.

Don't compliment her appearance instead of her music
Playing in a band is not the same as putting up an OkCupid profile. Playing music is not a desperate cry for dates. If you're thinking, "She looked so sexy up there" after she just played a killer guitar solo, keep that thought to yourself.

Be cool. Buy merch. Talk about the music. Interact like a human. A good rule of thumb is to ask yourself, "Would I say this to a dude in a band?" If the answer is no, don't say it.

Most of the people I interact with are sweet and respectful and wonderful. It's the stalker outliers who put women on edge when they're interacting with dudes at shows. In the words of Abraham Lincoln to Bill and Ted: Be excellent to each other and party on, dudes.

Tell Robin Edwards she's pretty good for a girl over on Twitter: @robinrobine

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