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I have been in an up-and-coming band for a little while now. I love playing with them, and we are killing every festival and moving up in the world. We are finding success, good things keep coming and the potential for it to just get bigger and better is all there, so I am left wondering why the fuck the leader of the band forgets to do shit like bring merch to gigs? Or say the name of the band during the gig? Not follow up on great opportunities? Not write a setlist and stands around looking stupid trying to figure out what to play next? Gets super high before gigs and forgets the easiest changes?